What a great feeling it is to see your child doing life with friends. Seeing them accepted and valued by others and knowing they have someone to explore life and share themselves with is an invaluable gift for them and us. We know there are just certain parts of life meant to be shared with a friend – not a parent.
These truths can weigh heavy on our hearts. Maybe they’ve always had trouble making friends or maybe it’s a new stage – either way it’s glaring when our ADHDer is lonely. It can feel scary for us parents and it probably does for them too.
If you’ve experienced this challenge you may have considered helping to fill the gap? We already orchestrate much of our children’s lives from what they eat, where they go and what they participate in. Why not help find them a friend? While organic friendships are best, there’s nothing wrong with exposing our ADHDers to possible new friends to see if anything sprouts.
We’ve found that using your child’s interests is the best start. The library has activities from LEGOS to creative writing for all ages and interests including teens. Check for events in your community, think about your church’s programs, and consider siblings of your other children’s friends. Possible matches could be lurking anywhere.
You also may have activities in your weekly family schedule with possible new friends. Ever notice the extra kids hanging around at sports practices while they wait on siblings?
Friendship is one of life’s great gifts. We know this and we desperately want this for our ADHDers. Don’t be afraid to talk about this openly if your child seems lonely. Making sure to love them exactly where they are can make all the difference.