Nothing To Be Sorry For

My child–my brave, kind, smart, loving, and complex child–has nothing to apologize for.  Yet, over and over again, in the past year, he has begun to apologize to me for all the “trouble he is.”  Every night and every morning, “Mom, I’m sorry for all the trouble I am.”  During the night as he battlesContinue reading “Nothing To Be Sorry For”

EMOTIONS: Keep a Lid On It

Managing the day to day of a complex ADHDer has challenges. Most of our time is spent corralling the rollercoaster of emotions they experience and pointing them in the the right direction as a gentle reminder to keep them on task . It requires a smooth and steady temperament on our part – keeping ourContinue reading “EMOTIONS: Keep a Lid On It”

Navigating Roadblocks

One of the hardest parts of parenting a complex ADHDer is hitting unexpected roadblocks. Just when you finally get into a groove managing meds and moods and feel like maybe things are running smoothly – BAM! It feels like you just hit a road block while going 60 mph. Sometimes you can catch a glimmerContinue reading “Navigating Roadblocks”

Measuring Progress

It’s only now, in the twelfth grade, that I can say meds are truly making a difference for my ADHD+er. For many, the very first try gives some wonderful relief and ability. For others, it takes some time. For us, it’s taken a lot more. We’re finally at a place where symptoms are managed soContinue reading “Measuring Progress”

Not Our First Rodeo

The start of a new school year brings a certain showdown for parents of complex ADHD+ers. Years of wrangling issues before they have a chance to get too far off and roping off boundaries so your student is understood makes you all the more prepared for the next roundup. And it’ll be coming. Before youContinue reading “Not Our First Rodeo”

Self Care Anyone?

Since March, most families have been enjoying the comforts of home. Together. Twenty four hours a day. Seven days a week. There are definite benefits we’ve all enjoyed due to this unexpected hiatus from life as we knew it. But most of us would probably also agree that any semblance of time alone or selfContinue reading “Self Care Anyone?”

Back to School: Preparing to Be An Advocate. Again.

For all the mystery that can surround complex ADHD there are some things you can know for sure. One of those is: YOU WILL HAVE TO ADVOCATE FOR YOUR CHILD. Period. This will be true in most every facet of their life and most certainly, and probably painstakingly, IN SCHOOL. The word advocate means “toContinue reading “Back to School: Preparing to Be An Advocate. Again.”

School Success Means Nurturing Connections

Parents of ADHD+ers know that building school relationships is vital to the success of their student. It can be no less than a part time job to create connections in all the places you know support will be needed – from the secretary to the principle. Then the tight rope walk begins between being likableContinue reading “School Success Means Nurturing Connections”

BACK TO SCHOOL DECISIONS: The Right School Has To Be Somewhere They Can Learn

Back in the day most of us sat in an uncomfortable wooden desk with an etched pencil holder on the far end, facing forward, and followed our teacher’s direction for learning – which didn’t deviate much from school to school. We got what we got and we didn’t throw a fit.  Not so today.  NowContinue reading “BACK TO SCHOOL DECISIONS: The Right School Has To Be Somewhere They Can Learn”

BACK TO SCHOOL DECISIONS: The Right School Has To Feel Safe

As parents of ADHDers we have all learned that we cannot get through to our kids when they are in crisis. Big emotions, let downs or negative perceptions – whether real or unfounded, are just some of the instances when there is no use trying to reason because they just won’t hear us through theContinue reading “BACK TO SCHOOL DECISIONS: The Right School Has To Feel Safe”