Any parent of a complex ADHDer knows that in a day’s time you’ll probably feel most of the feels. Overwhelming frustration is common, since – you know – ADHD. Joy and pride will pop up since you’ve made a habit look for the good stuff. There’ll be plenty of exhaustion from keeping things from goingContinue reading “Walking the Tightrope”
Author Archives: Two Moms and ADHD
Can I Return This Please?
I hear a lot of people talking about ADHD being a gift. In my experience, I don’t see it that way. Maybe what they mean is something like one of the following. “It’s not the end of the world. It’s not the worst thing that could happen. You can cope with this. The challenges don’tContinue reading “Can I Return This Please?”
Rest For a Bit, My Child
“You should take a nap,” my husband says. Frankly, I don’t like when people talk about self-care, getting a break, and resting. I feel like it’s absurd. Ali has taught me to see how and where I am able to practice self-care and for that I’m grateful. Ali’s right when she says all these thingsContinue reading “Rest For a Bit, My Child”
Nothing To Be Sorry For
My child–my brave, kind, smart, loving, and complex child–has nothing to apologize for. Yet, over and over again, in the past year, he has begun to apologize to me for all the “trouble he is.” Every night and every morning, “Mom, I’m sorry for all the trouble I am.” During the night as he battlesContinue reading “Nothing To Be Sorry For”
JUMP SCARES and ADHD
Being the mom of a complex ADHDer (ok, well TWO complex ADHDers) is a little bit like being in those walk-through haunted houses, a so-called “Fun House.” You’re in the dark, sometimes there are people nearby but you’re mostly on your own, and you are either recovering from a jump scare or about to endureContinue reading “JUMP SCARES and ADHD”
EMOTIONS: Keep a Lid On It
Managing the day to day of a complex ADHDer has challenges. Most of our time is spent corralling the rollercoaster of emotions they experience and pointing them in the the right direction as a gentle reminder to keep them on task . It requires a smooth and steady temperament on our part – keeping ourContinue reading “EMOTIONS: Keep a Lid On It”
Navigating Roadblocks
One of the hardest parts of parenting a complex ADHDer is hitting unexpected roadblocks. Just when you finally get into a groove managing meds and moods and feel like maybe things are running smoothly – BAM! It feels like you just hit a road block while going 60 mph. Sometimes you can catch a glimmerContinue reading “Navigating Roadblocks”
Measuring Progress (part two)
Ali wrote yesterday about progress. Progress is a funny thing. As humans, we instinctively reach out for upward movement, to climb higher, then we slip, we fall, we get up, and reach out again. And then sometimes there’s this boulder that comes crashing down out of nowhere and flattens us. That’s where I thought IContinue reading “Measuring Progress (part two)”
Measuring Progress
It’s only now, in the twelfth grade, that I can say meds are truly making a difference for my ADHD+er. For many, the very first try gives some wonderful relief and ability. For others, it takes some time. For us, it’s taken a lot more. We’re finally at a place where symptoms are managed soContinue reading “Measuring Progress”
Not Our First Rodeo
The start of a new school year brings a certain showdown for parents of complex ADHD+ers. Years of wrangling issues before they have a chance to get too far off and roping off boundaries so your student is understood makes you all the more prepared for the next roundup. And it’ll be coming. Before youContinue reading “Not Our First Rodeo”
Two Moms and ADHD 